tolyamory

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Tolyamory—a blend of "tolerate" and "polyamory"—is a term newly coined by sex advice columnist and podcaster Dan Savage. It describes a relationship dynamic in which one or both partners in a "socially monogamous" couple (a couple that presents as monogamous but is not fully exclusive) turn a blind eye to their partner’s extramarital sexual activity.

Is Tolyamory Just Polyamory Without Compersion? — What is Compersion? Marie Thouin 2025
Let’s ditch “tolyamory” and stick to the basics. It’s called cheating. Whether you choose to stay and continue to be with that cheater, then that’s your choice.

Tolyamory: The Relationship Term We Don’t Need 2025